Aditi Mathur and Ratnesh Mathur
This is not your regular quiz – here, for each question/situation you need to choose two answers!
One that you normally do (or would have done) – this helps you to become aware of your current thinking (and beliefs). If what you do, spans many responses – choose many.
Second, choose a response that looks interesting, different – something that you would like to explore, experiment, and understand more. Your second response could be the same as your first.
So, here goes:
- I tell the child that it is not good to lie and give a small talk to the whole class about honesty.
- I get upset and scold the child saying that I hate being told lies. I question her why she is doing so.
- I tell the child that my ‘trust’ has been broken and that I’m hurt. I express this in private.
- I tell that child that she must be fulfilling some need of hers and I would like to understand the needs so that together we can eliminate the need for anybody to lie to anybody.
A child complains that he is being bullied in school by other children.
- I will go and talk to the children who are bullying the child. If required I will take the help of the principal. This needs to be stopped immediately.
- Will tell the child – “Come on it is not a big deal. Stop fussing now. Learn to face such situations in life”. (Or I may ignore this situation)
- I will start by asking him to share his feelings and thoughts about this situation. Then I will ask the child what he or she would like to do? If he says, “I don’t know how” I will suggest that he think more about it and then we can discuss when he is ready.
- I talk to the child. I suggest how he can face such bullies. I give him a few options/strategies that will work. I might even share some of my personal experiences. I encourage/motivate him to fight back.
The authors run an open unschool called Aarohi and invite all readers to visit and see how open learning can be an amazing way to work with children. They also conduct training retreats and online training for teachers and parents. Visit www.aarohilife.org.